Being willing to let go of our pain frees our self from our negative past. When we bring to the surface what has caused us pain, we begin to see the relationship between our disappointments, our needs, and our choices. By speaking the truth about what we have been through, we give attention to our heartbreaks. Each disappointment and pain expressed removes a thorn from our heart, so now the wounds can begin to heal. This acknowledgment refines our needs. The more we heal, the less we need things outside of ourselves to feel better about who we are. When we change our needs, we change our choices. We stop expecting our current situation to make up for what has hurt us in the past. If home is where the heart is, we just cleaned house. This cleaning allows us to move back into our heart, our home, our center, so we can begin taking a closer look at ourselves.
Our past is responsible for much of who we are, but it does not determine who we become. We are beginning to clearly see the difference between who we are, and what happens around us. Even though bad things do happen, these things do not have to keep us from knowing our worth. Our connection with our heart is growing stronger. The alignment with our heart feels better than our needs. After we acknowledge our past and let it go, we are able to sit with ourselves and find out who we are. This feels better than anything we’ve ever experienced outside of ourselves. We have found a way to accept ourselves, and this changes the course of our lives. Instead of behaving impulsively from unresolved disappointments, and heartbroken expectations, we are able to process our experiences from a calm place.